Hadia Fiaz


Life to me is painfully beautiful – it has the infinite potential of being simultaneously the greatest and worst thing. In my life, there are days where I can’t even muster up enough strength to get out of bed, days where I don’t feel “good enough” to be president, days where I wish I could take down the entire system of the patriarchy and days where I feel as if I’ve completely failed myself. How am I to give you advice on how to overcome the failures one experiences in life when I haven’t overcome them myself? I can’t. What I can do is share my perspective on failure. It’s important to share our stories, because when we share we realize that we’re a lot more similar than we are different and no one is immune to failure. What helps me accept and understand the kind of world we live in, a world where life is both terrible and wonderful, is my mindset. You know those nights you have when you’re sitting alone in your room at 2am thinking about all the things you’ve done wrong and wondering why can’t I just be better?”, in those moments a little change in perspective can go a long way. It’s easy to sit there and let the vicious cycle of negativity take over your thoughts I know that, I’ve been there. But in any situation whether it be positive or negative, one’s mindset can change everything – failing your first university quiz (which I did) can go from proving that you’re incredibly stupid to proving that you’re learning to adapt to a different learning environment, failing to keep up with your social commitments (which I have) can go from proving that you’re antisocial and a bad friend to you learning to accept that you go through bouts of depression from time to time. I don’t have an easy fix to overcoming failure but for me the bottom line is this: life is painfully beautiful – it has the infinite potential of being simultaneously the greatest and worst thing and we have to accept that. Some of us do and we learn to live our lives and some of us don’t. Some of us inhabit the liminal space in between. Your successes and your failures are what make you, you. Trying to hide the “bad stuff” to only show the good is a disservice to yourself. Failure and success are on the same side of the same coin, it’s important to learn and live with both in any that you know how.